A Daily Romance Planner?

If you have been in a relationship with the same person for a long time then you eventually reach the point where you no longer have the spark of the initial romance and instead you probably find yourself sharing a life, but mostly just chugging along with your daily routines. If you find that most of your conversations involve discussing utility bills and grocery lists, then you have probably reached this point.

I was searching around on the internet to find ideas for an article about how to bring back the romance to long term relationships, when I stumbled upon a very interesting calendar: The Ask Mars Venus Romance Planner. This calendar has a specific idea for each day of the month, alternating between “Venusians” and “Martians”, that have the intention of bringing romance back into a relationship.

I had a very strong initial reaction to this “Romance Planner” that suggested things like:

“Tues, June 2: The next time he upsets you, share your negative feelings in a centered way without blaming or being disapproving of him.”

“Fri, June 26: The next time you have an argument, make your point, then tell him he’s forgiven. Don’t punish him by making him wonder.”

Yikes! Those really struck me the wrong way! Should women seriously take the advice to pick a day that dictates our behavior? But then I started looking at some of the other suggestions:

“Tues, June 23: Do her least favorite chore today - if you don’t know what that is, ask!”

“Wed, June 10: Plan a weekend campout without the kids… Just you two together…you depend on each other for everything.”

Hmm maybe some of these ideas are actually kind of sweet…but does it make sense to try to complete one task everyday? Is that too much or is that a valid way to re-introduce these types of elements back into your relationship?

Check out the Ask Mars Venus Romance Planner and tell me what you think…I’m still on the fence.